How LGBTQ+ Weddings are Unique + Tips for Being More Inclusive in your Photography Business
How LGBTQ+ Weddings are Unique + Tips for Being More Inclusive in your Photography Business
So how are LGBTQ+ weddings different from cisgender/heterosexual weddings? Well the short answer is THEY AREN’T! Their big day is still about celebrating the union of two lovebirds with friends & family. That being said, there CAN BE a few differences that you should be aware of and sensitive to as a photographer/wedding professional.
Chosen Family
An unfortunate reality of the LGBTQ+ community as a whole is the lack of acceptance or support by their biological families. Thankfully this is not always the case, but it’s absolutely something to be aware of. Often times, the couple’s CHOSEN family will take precedence in photos over bio family. As a photographer, this can show up as, less formal family photos and more photos with friends. The couple may also choose to walk together down the aisle or be walked by a friend or non-traditional family member.
Gender and Pronouns
Using verbiage such as “same sex couple” or “gay wedding” on your website is not very inclusive. Being an LGBTQ+ couple does not automatically mean they are the same gender. They may even appear to be a cis/het couple. For all you know, they may both be non-binary! This is why you always want to find out your client’s pronouns as soon as possible. I highly suggest removing gender-specific verbiage and pronouns from your website, contact form, contracts and email interactions.
Gender Roles
As a photographer, no doubt you have your go-to poses for your cis/het couples that perfectly capture their relationship. These go-to poses may or may not accurately capture the relationship of an LGBTQ+ couple. Never assume gender roles are in affect on any level in their relationship, even if one partner’s appearance is more masculine or feminine.
I highly recommend offering a complimentary engagement session (if you don’t already) to get to know your client’s dynamic before their wedding day. I will often suggest a pose to my clients and allow them to choose their own position within it. I’ll say things like “however feels right for your relationship.” By working with them ahead of time, you will learn their unique dynamic and will not need as much direction on the day of their wedding.
Comfort Level
LGBTQ+ weddings will be some of the most fun, love-filled weddings you will ever experience but if you have never photographed an LGBTQ+ wedding before, I highly suggest 2nd shooting a few with a seasoned photographer before booking one yourself. Your client’s comfort level is of utmost importance and if YOU feel in any way uncomfortable, it will impact them. You can also set up a styled wedding shoot with an LGBTQ+ couple. Just make sure to use models who are a couple in REAL LIFE.
I hope this blog has helped give you some insight into how to become more inclusive of LGBTQ+ couples in your wedding photography business. Though there are a few things to be aware of, LGBTQ+ couples just want what every other couple wants - an unforgettable day celebrating their love!
